The state of being seen as right is something that many
people pursue relentlessly. It doesn’t matter what other points of view or
proof is brought up, the need to be right supersedes everything. Most people
aren’t really aware that they are choosing between two values—being right or
being happy. These two ideals are present in most of life’s key situations. If
you are unconscious of it, the powerful ego usually will do the choosing for
you.
“Nothing is more deadly to happiness than the pursuit of being right ... which is to say, being seen as right. For personal proof of this,
consider the people you know who are most insistent
on their politics, their patterns, their viewpoint, their way… they tend to
judge the most, insult the most, complain the most, and suffer the most. They
reek of misery. This is often also reflected in their physical health.”
Source:
http://j.mp/1jajMar
The closer to home the situation is, the less likely most
people will recognize or remember the choice between these two values of being
right or being happy. Ironically, the more intimate the situation, the more
damaging the wrong choice is. It is very seldom that in a close situation
that being right is paramount, or more important than a person to be loved.
I’ve found when I back off, even when I am dead sure that I’m
right, when in the heat of a discussion, it can possibly save a week of bad
feelings in my marriage, rescue a relationship, or maintain a reputation.
Does it mean that you let go of your morals, beliefs, and
principals to give in to someone else’s stronger or more insistent opinion or
belief? Absolutely not. But when there is not a huge reason to die on the hill,
why not just let it go? It can actually save yourself from stress-related
illnesses, if you let your ego take second place to your sense of deference for
the sake of peace!
Challenge: Next time you find yourself in a difference of opinion with someone, ask yourself, "Is it worth raising the stress level right now to prove that I'm right?" If you find that it isn't, find a peaceful way to resolve it as quickly as possible and congratulate yourself for choosing the happy route!
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increase! Challenge: Next time you find yourself in a difference of opinion with someone, ask yourself, "Is it worth raising the stress level right now to prove that I'm right?" If you find that it isn't, find a peaceful way to resolve it as quickly as possible and congratulate yourself for choosing the happy route!
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